May Allah bless you with the quality of mercy in abundance, may he enlighten your sight to discern good from evil. May Allah protect you from all evil and deceit, and guide you to the righteous path.
On your birthday dear wife, I am sending you lots of love, positivity, and blessings. May Allah make things easy for you when you are struggling. I love you, happy birthday.
Just forget the shit and move on, everyone has right to spend his/her life by their own way and preferences. Choose your favorite flavor and enjoy the rest of life.