We'll always be disappointed if we believe that we can plan for a peak experience and make it happen. True joy can't be anticipated or planned. It just strikes.

I finally figured out the only reason to be alive is to enjoy it.

Show me a writer, any writer, who hasn't suffered and I'll show you someone who writes in pastels as opposed to primary colors.

If it weren't for the last minute, nothing would get done.

One of the keys to happiness is a bad memory.

Some people live life and others talk about it.

The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself.

Language is the road map of a culture. It tells you where its people come from and where they are going.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

the body, seeking truth, sends a signal. But decoding it, interpreting its meaning, and knowing how to proceed from there is another matter entirely.

The bolder and more courageous you are, the more you will learn about yourself.

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.

You can't evaluate a prospective partner if you insulate your relationship from your family and friends and his.

Feeling essentially superior to other people is as sure a sign of poor self-esteem as feeling essentially inferior.

Don't count on the power of your love or your nagging to create something that wasn't there to begin with.

No book or expert can protect us from the range of painful emotions that make us human.

If you pursue a distancer, he or she will distance more. Consider it a fundamental law of physics.

We all fear change, even as we seek it.

The happiest people are focused on living their own life (not someone else's) as well as possible.