If you want a recipe for relationship failure, just wait for the other person to change first.

Differences don’t just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.

Nothing you say can ensure that the other person will get it, or respond the way you want. You may never exceed his threshold of deafness.

The miracle is that your children will love you with all your imperfections if you can do the same for them.

Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another.

Anxiety is extremely contagious, but so is calm.

Silence can pose a greater threat than the difficult truth.

Sometimes the most helpful thing you can do is to stop trying to be helpful.

Whole-hearted listening is the greatest spiritual gift you can give to the other person.

Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

If we only listened with the same passion that we feel about being heard.

Maples are such sociable trees They're always rustling and whispering to you.

To love is easy and therefore common but to understand how rare it is!

I know I chatter on far too much... but if you only knew how many things I want to say and don't. Give me SOME credit.

As a rule, I am very careful to be shallow and conventional where depth and originality are wasted.

I wouldn't want to marry anybody who was wicked, but I think I'd like it if he could be wicked and wouldn't.

I believe flowers have souls. I have known roses that I expect to meet in heaven.

never write a line you'd be ashamed to read at your own funeral.