Gary Chapman Messages

When I admit my own imperfections, it doesn't mean I am a bad person.

Love doesn't keep a score of wrongs. Love doesn't bring up past failures.

Remember that your ultimate goal is for your children to grow up secure in your love, strong in their faith, and with sound character.

People tend to criticize their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need.

Lack of love from parents often motivates their children to go searching for love in other relationships. This search is often misguided and leads to further disappointment.

What we dislike in others is often a weakness in our own lives.

Conflicts are not a sign you've married the wrong person. They simply affirm you are human.

Don't be a victim of the urgent. In the long run, much of what seems so pressing right now won't even matter. What you do with your children will matter forever.

We are trained to analyze problems and create solutions. We forget that marriage is a relationship, not a project to be completed or a problem to solve.

For love, we will climb mountains, cross seas, traverse desert sands, and endure untold hardships. Without love, mountains become unclimbable, seas uncrossable, deserts unbearable, and hardships our lot in life.